🕊️ Fear and Love in the New Testament: Reconciling The Tension
The New Testament presents a rich tapestry of theological themes, to be sought in a spirit of wisdom and understanding. Among the most seemingly paradoxical are the concepts of fear and love. At first glance, they appear to be opposing forces—one rooted in reverence or dread, the other in intimacy and assurance. Yet Scripture does not treat them as mutually exclusive. Instead, it invites believers into a nuanced, relationship with both, characterized by subtle shades of meaning revealing that fear and love, rightly understood, are not contradictory but complementary in the life of faith.
💖 Love That Casts Out Fear
In 1 John 4:18, the apostle John writes with striking clarity:
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and the one who fears has not been perfected in love.” (ESV)
This verse is often cited to emphasize the security believers have in God's love. Some say the verse in context is eschatological, that relating to death and judgement. This is because the preceding verse speaks of confidence in the day of judgment. So it is said the fear John refers to is not reverent awe but phobos (φόβος), the terror or torment of judgement and condemnation. In MOUNCE Reverse-Interlinear, the Greek reinforces this: phobos ouk estin en tē agapē—“fear is not in love.
However, let us look at this verse in 1 John 4:17, "In this love is perfected among us so that we have confidence in the day of judgement because just as he exists we exist in this world." We see we have confidence in the day of judgment and confidence as we exist like him in this world. So it doesn't seem to be purely eschatological.
Our confidence lies in both "confidence in the day of judgment" and the reason is "because just as he exists we exist in this world." This is how we know love is perfected among us, because we bear fruit of love, and obey the command of Jesus to love one another.
🙏 Fear That Perfects Holiness
Yet Paul, writing to the Corinthians, offers a different angle:
“Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.” (2 Corinthians 7:1, ESV)
Here, fear seems to be something not cast out but cultivated. Herein lies the tension, is it love or fear that we are matured and perfected? The Greek word used—phobos again—takes on a different nuance. Which brings us to the questions we want to answer, is it the fear of punishment or reverent awe? Is it love or fear (dread or reverence) that leads us to obedience? Or both?
🧩 Reconciling the Tension
So how do we reconcile these two perspectives?
- Different contexts, means different types of fear? The context could explain two different type of fear. Our have we in our efforts to explain have we called fear, reverence and awe when we really need to reconcile the tension?
- Does Love lead to reverent fear? A heart transformed by love does not become flippant or casual with God but grows in awe? Hebrews 12:28–29 would imply this is acceptable worship,
“Let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe, for our God is a consuming fire.” (ESV)
- Is fear a catalyst for holiness? Are we fear-driven into obedience which would have to do with punishment not perfection in love thus a form of legalism or does love compel us to live a sanctified life?
🛡️ Fear and Love in the Life of the Believer
The mature Christian does not live in dread of God’s wrath but walks in a renewed mind like that of Christ. Christ was one with the Father and knew how much the Father loved him. What was the motivating factor that propelled Jesus to go to the cross and to say "not my will but yours." It was love. What was the motivating factor for God to reconcile man to himself? It was love, "This is how God loved the world, he sent his only begotten Son..." We see fear then referenced as awe not dread. This awe fuels obedience, not out of compulsion or fear but out of love. As Jesus said:
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” (John 14:15, ESV)
In Agape Love are we founded and rooted. The flogging or the punishment is meant to be a temporary correction, to shake away that which is unshakable, to make us realize we need to change and are dependent upon God for this. We call it "tough love" to correct someone, because it hurts us, but we love that person genuinely to correct them. Ultimately, it is love that will cause us to endure into maturity, not fear of punishment.
If we do not endure it is because we do not yet have a spirit of wisdom and revelation in knowing Christ further, we are lacking in wisdom, faith, power, or love. Fear and love both serve a purpose, but as John writes "the one who fears [punishment] has not been perfected [matured, conformed to the image of Christ, a renewed mind] in love."
Going Deeper

Love's Importance In The New Testament
Love energizes our faith, matures or perfects us to be like Christ, as he was in this world so are we, so our confidence also lies in this not just in the day of judgement. Christ is our redemption, righteousness, and sanctification. We understand grace in regards to redemption and imputed righteousness, but seem to turn back to principles and laws in regards to our sanctification. But our dependence is on God completely to fill all in all, so that boasting is not in ourselves (1 Corinthians 1:30-31).
Love is the main focus and context of John, "and we have come to know and trust the love that God has, that in us, that God is love and the one abiding in love abides in God and God abides in him" (1 John 4;16). Abiding in God is equivalent to abiding in truth and love, as God exists both. We cannot say we abide in truth and not love his brethren, we would be walking in darkness, not as Jesus walked. We know God's love because he exists in us and we mature because we have come "to know and trust the love that God has, that in us..."
John profoundly states God's love is experiential, first revealed to us, and is a sign God exists in us. "We love because he first loved us. If someone says 'I love God' yet hates his brother, he exists a liar, for the one not loving his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And the command we have from him is this, the one loved of God also loves his brother" (1 John 4:19-21). See New Testament Love: Loving One Another as Christ’s Brethren for a deeper look.
We can abide in God because he abides in us and the proof we have of this is that he loves us, and if we experience this love then we know we are required to love as he does thus we have confidence in this world and the day of judgment because we walk like he did in this world, with a pure unadulterated agape love.
John’s point is pastoral, where the primary concern is love which puts emphasis on the care, guidance, and well-being of individuals, not abstract theology, rigid rules, or strict adherence to doctrines of men. Not like leaders of the world, Jesus said, who lord over and exercise authority over men, but one serves, becomes last to build up the least. The pastoral concept, rooted in the biblical image of a shepherd tending to a flock, prioritizes compassionate, personal, and sensitive support over a strictly legalistic, fear of punishment, approach.
Those who God abides in, know of God’s love, they have been rooted and established in it and need not dread divine judgement as to that day. The love of God, revealed in Christ, is not fickle or conditional but perfect, and that perfection drives out the fear of rejection and condemnation. Agape love provides a good foundation to build upon or good soil to grow in.
Fear or love as a catalyst for holiness:
- do not have assurance, according to the day of judgment or that God is in us and at work in us (1 John 4:17).
- are not sure of our calling (2 Peter 1:10; Ephesians 4:1)
- are not sure of our identity in Christ, that we have been transferred into the kingdom of God (Hebrews 12:28–29).
- are not living according to our identity thus God punishes to correct because we are legitimate children (Hebrews 12:6).